So often we can find ourselves dwelling on the past. Filling our minds (and in turn lives) with statements like “I wish I did this”, “I wish I didn't do that” and so on. Hindsight becomes our greatest enemy and before we know it we are holding ourselves back from moving forward. Unfortunately, no one has invented a time travelling machine so we can't change what has happened in the past. But what we can change is our relationship to it and even our future to come. I know this sounds cliché but I would like to challenge you on this idea.
If you could go back to a time in the past that may have been less than easy for you; what would you say to yourself? What words of advice would you offer? Would it be something positive like "things WILL get better" or "keep going you are almost there" or would it be something negative. Now just sit with either outcome for a moment and begin to assess the feelings and/or thoughts that arise from these. Begin to notice how you are feeling or in fact how you are holding yourself.
With the negative you might be finding yourself slumping slightly, your head tilted down and an overwhelming feeling of disappointment or sadness creeping in. Now letting that go and assess the feelings of the positive. Begin to notice how this makes you feel; elated, feeling lighter, taller, a sense of happiness and hope.
So with this idea let’s bring this into present time and into your present life. We all come from completely different backgrounds and are most likely in very different situations at the moment. There may be something occurring within your own life that seems rather distasteful or unpleasant at the moment. Let’s use this technique of sending a positive message to ourselves. Imagine your future self coming to deliver you a message. Really feel this message. I want you to really imagine this happening. Hold this thought and feeling for a moment and then reassess how it feels.
This may not be physically changing this current situation in any way, but what it may be doing is changing our relationship to it. Instead of viewing these situations as something that is energy lowering, or inevitable, maybe we can begin to see this as something temporary. Something that can teach us valuable lessons or help us to grow and learn.
This simple concept is something that can be incorporated throughout all situations within our lives and the whole point of this is to simply show how powerful it can be when we hold onto perceptions or feelings within our minds. Positive or Negative – how do these affect you and how do you choose to let them affect you.